OK, I admit it. My husband has a habit and I am the enabler.
I get him his supplies.
I make excuses for why he’s not available.
It’s been going on for years.
It makes him happy.
He says he’ll stop, and I believe him.
His habit: He studies Daf Yomi. Each day he studies a page of Talmud. He’s been doing this for over five years.
I print up his calendars for him so that he doesn’t lose track of which page he’s on. Sometimes I take pictures of the pages of the Talmud and put them on my computer so that when we are on vacation he doesn’t have to carry the heavy volumes along with us and still can study.
When he is studying and people call, I tell them he can’t come to the phone because he is busy.
I support him because this study makes him happy.
And when he does finish,in about a year and a half, I think just as the women whose husbands get Ph.D.s have been known to receive a PHT degree (putting hubby through) I deserve a PHTDY. And I’m guessing there lots more women who also qualify– every one of them enablers.