Comments on: Pre-Pesach musings https://drsavta.com/wordpress/2010/03/26/pre-pesach-musings/ Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:06:47 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Alissa https://drsavta.com/wordpress/2010/03/26/pre-pesach-musings/#comment-572 Fri, 26 Mar 2010 09:06:47 +0000 https://drsavta.com/wordpress/?p=868#comment-572 Nice post. It’s amazing how long negative stuff says with us, and how hard it is to hold on to the good stuff. I received a very disparaging comment from the father of a kid I babysat for when I was 16. That comment made me feel completely inadequate, and like I’d never succeed at anything. To this day – nearly 30 years later – that comment pops into my head and I have to fight it to keep me from feeling like I can’t do something.

I have a whole collection of these kinds of comments. And the vast majority of them were people just tossing off a thoughtless comment, not meaning to be hurtful in any way. Although I think that makes them more hurtful – at least if someone’s being deliberately malicious, you can blame the comment on the meanness of the person.

If only peoples’ words were as easy to burn as chametz.

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