Comments on: Time for a rant

By: Gail

Gail — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 16:10:38 +0000

I think it is a matter of finding a balance. I enjoy going to our “Women’s Rosh Chodesh Celebrations” once a month, and on Saturdays I go to Torah Study which is a mix of men and women. It’s about making choices which work for your marriage. Just because segregated activities exist, it doesn’t mean you have to participate in everything that is “for women only”.

By: Dr Savta

Dr Savta — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 14:06:17 +0000

Sandy,

I agree with what you are saying and I do think that women need women friends. In fact, women friends are often what keep other women sane! What I have trouble with is when more and more activities are geared only for women and it’s not even a time one is really sharing with a friend in terms of emotional energy, it’s just time away from the husbands. But, as they like to say on the internet YMMV

By: Sandy Gruenberg

Sandy Gruenberg — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 12:11:48 +0000

It’s all in the balance. Balance means time for both girl friends and husband time. Nurturing both is very important especially since men don’t seem to have the same aptitude to make close friends like women do.

By: Toby

Toby — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 11:46:06 +0000

I happen to disagree wholeheartedly. I sometimes feel left out of friends because I do spend alot of downtime with my husband walking, eating out, and shmoozing. I dont have time to go to all the all-women’s activities that other women go to. Thanks for your post and validating that something is a little off with the proliferation of women’s only entertainment, groups etc..

By: Aviva

Aviva — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 11:16:32 +0000

I understand where you are coming from and agree to a great extent.

There is also another element which suffers from the husband doing his thing and the wife doing her thing. The children loose out on quality family together time. There is only so much “free” time from work or school and if you spend much of it at gender activities when do you have time for family time with all the family together.

Even if you are older and all your children are out of the house – then the family time should be about be safta and sabas time with grandchildren as well as children.