{"id":1071,"date":"2011-03-01T11:30:17","date_gmt":"2011-03-01T09:30:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/drsavta.com\/wordpress\/?p=1071"},"modified":"2011-03-01T11:30:17","modified_gmt":"2011-03-01T09:30:17","slug":"time-for-a-rant","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drsavta.com\/wordpress\/2011\/03\/01\/time-for-a-rant\/","title":{"rendered":"Time for a rant"},"content":{"rendered":"

First of all, I believe that people have a right to make choices, so anyone who doesn’t agree with me has every right to his\/her opinion and I am not trying to reshape the world in my image.<\/p>\n

So here’s what is driving me up the wall…<\/p>\n

It’s the increasing separation between the genders that is going on in Judaism. I happen to feel very comfortable with that separation in a synagogue, assuming that the mechitza<\/em> allows women to feel that they are part of the service, but I really don’t like the growing trend. It started, at least in my mind, with women getting together to study on shabbat at mincha time when the men were at the synagogue. Although there were always women’s organizations, now there are lessons, psalm groups, dramatic presentations, musical plays, etc. for women only to attend.<\/p>\n

Here’s my problem: In the olden days when the men used to go out and play poker with their friends or bowling or to lodge activities (like Masons and Lions Club), women resented being such a minor part of their husbands’ lives. Now, women are invited to be out of the house in the evenings and spend their leisure time with other women and, most importantly, without their husbands.<\/p>\n

I’m sorry. I married my husband so that we could share life. I don’t enjoy running out and doing every possible thing I can to stay away from him. He is the one I want to spend my life with. But now that has become an impediment to my being part of the community where the norm is to take part in women’s activities.
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I do think that women can and should enjoy each other’s company. We share struggles and challenges with each other and help each other in practical ways as well. However, I think it is a mistake to have women’s primary leisure activities being in the company of other women and excluding their husbands. I think it has negative implications for marriage and family life.<\/p>\n

Let’s face it, family life is not always a bed of roses. Couples disagree about childrearing, household chores, finances, and a myriad of other things. One ingredient of the glue that keeps them together and happy is that precious leisure time when they can just “be”– when they can enjoy talking with each other or together taking a walk or reading or watching a video or listening to music. Shared experiences build positive feelings. For healthy family life, there need to be a sufficient number on an ongoing basis. Siphoning off a significant amount of time to same gender activities just doesn’t seem healthy.<\/p>\n

But that’s just me. Feel free to disagree. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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