{"id":141,"date":"2006-06-04T13:00:48","date_gmt":"2006-06-04T10:00:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/drsavta.com\/wordpress\/2006\/06\/04\/i-remember-mama\/"},"modified":"2006-06-04T13:00:48","modified_gmt":"2006-06-04T10:00:48","slug":"i-remember-mama","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drsavta.com\/wordpress\/2006\/06\/04\/i-remember-mama\/","title":{"rendered":"I Remember Mama"},"content":{"rendered":"

When we say yizkor <\/em>and remember our deceased relatives, I always find it important to think of my parents and my relationship with them. Some times I focus on the good times and sometimes I think about what I wish might have been. Sometimes I feel bad about the missed opportunities that were, and, more frequently, of what they are missing now.<\/p>\n

However this time I had a very different experience. Although my mother and I were not as close as we could have been and although she often did not understand the decisions I made, it suddenly struck me that I was, to a great extent, living a life based on things that she taught me, things that she found important.<\/p>\n

For example, my mother had a sense of what was appropriate\u00e2\u20ac\u201din behavior, in dress, in speech. I realized that to a very great extent, I have adopted those standards as my own. My mother taught me to be polite and to not be self-promoting and those too are things I try to remember. She valued education and family. Certainly I share that with her.<\/p>\n

So it came to me that despite all of the negatives in our interactions, she was an effective teacher. Not only did I learn what she taught me, but I value it and there is a small feeling of satisfaction in acting as she might want me to act.<\/p>\n

Someone once wrote that mothers have no idea of the strength of the impact they have on their children. I suppose that is so. But I am willing to bet that in many cases neither the mother nor<\/em> the children are aware of how strong the messages mothers give are and how much children take them to heart.<\/p>\n

note: title refers to 1950s TV show http:\/\/www.fiftiesweb.com\/tv\/i-remember-mama.htm<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When we say yizkor and remember our deceased relatives, I always find it important to think of my parents and my relationship with them. Some times I focus on the good times and sometimes I think about what I wish might have been. Sometimes I feel bad about the missed opportunities that were, and, more […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,8,6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-141","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-family-life","category-parenting","category-interpersonal-relationships","entry"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t