{"id":412,"date":"2008-09-08T22:58:04","date_gmt":"2008-09-08T20:58:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/drsavta.com\/wordpress\/?p=412"},"modified":"2008-09-08T22:58:04","modified_gmt":"2008-09-08T20:58:04","slug":"parents-and-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drsavta.com\/wordpress\/2008\/09\/08\/parents-and-children\/","title":{"rendered":"Parents and children"},"content":{"rendered":"

One of the things I like to do is to listen to Garrison Keillor and “Prairie Home Companion.” I love the wholesome (for the most part) Americana. I enjoy his story telling and the skits. Last night I was listening to a recent show and he ended it with singing “I still can’t say goodbye.” The song<\/a> really touched me and so I found it on YouTube and listened a couple more times to let whatever it was that I was feeling wash over me.<\/p>\n

What I was feeling was a longing for my father. I think it’s true that I still can’t say goodbye. He was a good man. He was gentle and loving. He taught me a lot about life. He was very deep and thoughtful. And I miss him. And yes, I still can’t say goodbye even though he’s been gone for 23 years.<\/p>\n

I made me think about this: all of the time i was raising my children, I never felt as if I was very important in their lives. I knew they needed me physically to take care of them. They needed me to wash their clothes and make their meals and to buy them the things they needed– but I never had the sense that on a deep level they really needed me or even loved me. And they were good kids– every one of them. They were bright and clever and even mostly obedient. Yet I never had the feeling that I was all that important to them as a person beyond providing what they needed.<\/p>\n

Did my father feel that way about me? Did my mother? For as difficult a person as she was, she was enormously important to me. Despite her moods and her critical manner, all I wanted was her approval and her love. If she was angry with me, the whole world looked gray. If she was happy, I was elated. Did she know how much power she had?<\/p>\n

Do any of us parents really know how important we are to our children? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

One of the things I like to do is to listen to Garrison Keillor and “Prairie Home Companion.” I love the wholesome (for the most part) Americana. I enjoy his story telling and the skits. Last night I was listening to a recent show and he ended it with singing “I still can’t say goodbye.” […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-412","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-family-life","category-parenting","entry"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t